You deserve to live your own life

Did you ever do something you weren’t allowed to do as a teenager? Your parents said no, but you did it anyways. Despite all the obstacles, you got creative and figured out how to make it happen regardless of what anyone else wanted (least of all your parents).

Even though you are an adult today, I want you to do something unexpected.

I want you to be more like your rebellious teenage self. Here’s why:

You do a lot for your child. You feed them, bathe them, dress them, diaper them, entertain them, teach them, even speak for them. You would do anything for your child.

They bring you a lot of joy and it’s very rewarding to be parent, so of course you don’t mind that you have to do so much for them.

But do you sometimes give a little more than you should?

You’re so generous that sometimes you give away your own desires and wishes for life.

You give up date nights with your significant other. You give up trips you want to take. You give up time by yourself or with your other children. You give up sleep. You give up money. And sometimes you give up your sanity.

But here’s the truth:

You deserve to live your own life.

Not because you’re so generous, not because you’ve sacrificed so much for your child, but simply because you’re a human being and all human beings deserve to live their lives to the fullest.

You don’t exist solely to care for your child. That may be part of your purpose, but you are uniquely you! And you were put on this earth simply to be YOU to the fullest extent possible.

“But I just can’t!” you say, “I have to look after my child, I have bills to pay, I have all sorts of grown up stuff to do!”

As a teenager, you also had a lot of obstacles. You likely didn’t have much cash, you may not have had a car, and you had the threat of getting grounded if your parents found out. But did those things stop you? No! You came up with creative solutions.

Maybe you don’t have to be as secretive and sly as your teenage self, sneaking out your bedroom window at night. But what if you could be just as crafty?

What if you could come up with creative solutions to do what you want to with your life? What if instead of telling yourself, “No, I can’t do that because…” you instead said, “Hmm… I really want to…. How can I make that happen?”

But remember:

You don’t always have to change your life in a big way to have a big impact.

As nice as it sounds to lounge on a beach in Hawaii, cruise around in a speedboat, or go zip-lining through the trees, those big goals don’t make up the meat of your life. They’re part of it, sure, but it’s truly all the little moments that add up and create the life you dream of.

Last week I had a feeling in the pit of my stomach that something wasn’t right. I wished my life could be more exciting and adventurous, so I took my husband and dog to a new park to watch the sunset, I convinced my husband to let me try cutting his hair (it actually turned out surprisingly well!), and I made a new recipe for dinner.

The sunset reflected on the water and a boardwalk along the horizon
The view of the sunset from the park

All these simple little activities suddenly shifted my feelings about my life, and the feeling in the pit of my stomach disappeared! Making small changes like this really can make a huge difference.

There’s nothing more empowering and joyful than living the life you truly want to live.

So tap into your rebellious teenager side. Figure out what you want to do, get crafty, and make it happen!

You truly can live a great life with your disabled child.

I’m excited to find out:

What’s one thing you really want to do? And how can you make it happen? Tell me in the comments section so I can cheer you on!

Also, if you know a parent who could use this message, use the social buttons below to share it with them and empower them to live their own life!

Recent Posts

See All

Update: Changes to the Blog

I didn’t start writing my blog post until Wednesday morning. And I was supposed to post it a week ago. The truth is, I need to make a change. I need to start practicing what I preach. I need to start

The Three Roles of a “Special Needs Parent”

You might refer to yourself as a “special needs parent.” What does that mean? What does that look like? I generally don’t like to use the term “special needs parent” (as it is not generally well-accep